Take control over who contacts you

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We’ve created a safe space for you to openly express your sexuality. You can block members you choose not to interact with and there are no restrictions on how many members you can block in 24 hours. Combined with the ability to enable Contact Filters for your messages & winks these features allow you focus your attention on the members you want to connect with. Both features are available to Standard and Premium members.

Your Contact Filters are automatically set up to receive messages & winks from members within your chosen Match Criteria giving you control over who can contact you. You then have the option to further customise your filter settings, including the option of only allowing Profile Verified members to contact you.

Your Inbox is also split into two tabs Focused and Other.

The Focused tab includes messages from:

  • Members you’ve had an ongoing conversation with
  • Members within your Match Criteria
  • Members you’ve liked
  • Site Alerts and Notifications

The Other tab includes messages from:

  • Members who are outside your Match Criteria but who you have still chosen to receive winks and messages from in your Contact Filter settings
  • Members whose member type is within your Match Criteria but their age does not match
  • Members whose conversations/messages you’ve chosen to Ignore

Learn more about the Contact Filters by visiting our Help Centre.